Is anyone else's hubby a pain in the butt when it comes to picking baby names?

Miraculously, we agreed on a name for our daughter a month before she was born. He suggested Cosette (which I actually liked!) as her middle name and I chose Julienne (which he tolerated) as a first name. He calls her Cosette though, never Julienne.





Anyway, I'm 12 weeks pregnant, dunno if its a boy or girl, and he won't give me any name suggestions at all!





I have a baby name list for voting here: http://www.babynames.com/namelist/966973... And while he hasn't read the whole thing, he skimmed it and simply said that he hated all of them! But he won't give me any suggestions, except Josefina (ho-sefina) for a girl because that was his mom's name. I want to honor his mom who passed away when my daughter was 2 months old but I don't really like that name. I would only use it as a middle name.





Anyway, he won't listen to my names and he won't suggest any others, he's just a big pain in the butt! Of course, I'm the one carrying and popping out the baby so in the end it is MY decision, but I want him included, like he was with our daughter.





Is (was) anyone else's baby's father a pain like this? What did you do?

Is anyone else's hubby a pain in the butt when it comes to picking baby names?
Mine is a little bit like yours - he never suggests names, he will only say "yes" or "no" to them.





So to begin with I just sent him huge lists of every name I could think of no matter how crazy it sounded and made him put Y or N next to it. That way I could see what kind of taste he had in names, since he didn't really have a clue himself; men rarely think about these things.





That was actually the beginning of the Baby Name Polls - I tried them out on him first!





He says "No" to almost everything - but the good thing is that through constant discussion and by never getting angry with each other, we now have a reasonably decent list of baby names that we both like fairly equally. I came to see where our tastes intersected, and could judge the kind of name we would both like.





He has surprised me with some of the things that he likes.
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Reply:me and my boyfriend are doing if its a boy he names it and if its a girl i name it. But we did agree on the names each other picked in the end and if its a girl Keelie Paige and a boy just Fenix, no middle name (he origionally wanted Carbine but i didnt like it.)
Reply:For some men picking out names are not their top priorities. At least he has good tastes in names.
Reply:Lol, I think that I'm going to be the one that will be a pain in the butt... hehe lol
Reply:I dont have kids yet, but omg when we talk about names its a royal pain. He likes all this manly man names for boys like....Brock....Minataro.......wtf is that? And he says i like gay names lolll. Josefina is a gross name thank god my bf's grandma was isabel cause i like that. I have this theory that all men have the same taste in names...and will name it after comic book characters liek batman...i just dont listen i think i'll have more say in it.
Reply:Me and my husband can't seem to come to an agreement on a girl name. I still don't know what I'm having, I will find out in 3 weeks at my 20 week appointment, but we have already been talking about names. For a boy there is no question about, he will be named after my husband, so he will be Eliseo III [i love his name]. If its a girl he wants Natalia, and I like it but I have my heart set on Pahola. But since we are not sure what it is, its up in the air right now.





As for my dad, when I was born (im the oldest) my mom wanted to name me Edna. My dad hated that name! He said what kind of name is that, it only had 4 letters.. lol... so my mom gave in and named me Judith, which he liked. My next sister, they named her Edna because my mom said that once it came time to name her my dad didn't really care... lol... Maybe your husband will be like that.
Reply:Nope, my husband was always the one spending hours online compiling lists!! Although he did have a preference for Spanish names, due to his background, which I wasn't too sure about.





Maybe choose your favourite 4 or 5, and then sit and discuss it with him. If he doesn't follow suit then don't pressure him. I'm pretty sure by the birth he will have got more interested. Maybe he's just worried?





One thing I would say, however, is that yes you are carrying the baby and 'popping it out' but that doesn't mean it's your decision. You are both its parents and ultimately you have to agree. It's one of the most important decisions you'll ever make, trust me.
Reply:Well I love my baby's name (her name's Alyssa) but I wanted to change it when I was pregnant to Aaliyah but he wouldn't let me. Since we started going out about 5 years ago I said I wanted to name my baby Alyssa but it's really popular so that was why I changed my mind, but he didn't he loved the name of Alyssa and wouldn't change it for any other name and that's what we named her after all. And I am happy with it but if it would of been up to me 100% I think her name would of been Aaliyah.
Reply:Yes, my husband and I have completely different tastes when it comes to names. I like unique names that aren't to out there. He likes more common names that where popular in the 80's like Stephanie and Melissa, which are ok but not my favorite.





He is very set in his ways so we have had to do a lot of compromising. I would tell your husband to suggest some names, or he is out of luck. Because you can't reject all names and not at least suggest more then one.





I understand wanting to honor loved ones my two sons middle names are from there grandfathers. I wanted to honor them but I really did not want to use them as first names.





Congratulations!
Reply:Not my fiance. When I was 12 weeks pregnant (2 weeks ago) we already had our names picked. He didn't suggest many but he loved most of the ones I came up with so everything worked out. But my friend and her husband were having the same problem. She suggested every boy name that their was to him and he kept saying "No, I don't like that one." and he wouldn't suggest any either. So she gave up and said that if he wasn't going to help then he didn't have to. She was going to name the baby herself. After awhile he came around and he ended up picking his name: Alexander Cade.


By the way, I love Cordelia and Caleb off your list!